Getting Things Done Without The Whip

by Julie Claire on December 16, 2015

Recently I was talking with a woman who was struggling to be both self-compassionate and accountable to her intentions. She didn’t feel like she could have both.

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And it got me thinking:–How common this is for so many of us who have something we want to do in life and yet feel like we don’t want to be too soft on ourselves for fear of not getting off the couch.

 

We’re afraid we’ll be lazy, indulgent, and passive. That if we take ourselves off the hook for not doing something we will be promoting sloth and our future is dubious at best.

 

Wow! What bum rap self-compassion is getting!

 

So what does self-compassion look like in the face of wanting to follow through on an intention? And why is it important?

 

To me self-compassion is the voice that acknowledges: “Wow, this is really hard, what is going on?” Or perhaps it asks us: “What might make this easier–if I could change the way I’m doing this, what would I do differently?”

 

Sometimes I find myself surprised when I stumble into a self-compassionate moment. You mean I don’t have to beat myself up? You mean I can wait until morning to finish this project? You mean I can ask for help? It’s okay? I did the best I could? I can leave this behind and move on?

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Self-compassion gives us all a way to be with ourselves in the face of suffering, distress, and failure that is heart-based and within the present moment.

 

When I look up the definition of self-compassion I find: “It is a kind and mindful attentiveness to where we hurt or have failed or perceive ourselves to be inadequate. “

 

Tuning into our suffering does not mean we’re going to eat more donuts or skip class.

 

Self-compassion tunes you into your life. Not out.

 

Once you are in the place of tuning into yourself, you are much more likely to:

 

  • Be flexible and change directions, stopping that which isn’t working and beginning something that will work.
  • Change the timeline or deadline to one that you can achieve –which builds your self-trust and your belief in your abilities.
  • Slow down the pace so that you are more sustainable and not as apt to burn out
  • Ask for help. Asking for help can be the difference between a dream taking shape or falling by the wayside.

 

Your heart doesn’t lie. It won’t tell you to go to sleep if you’re kettle is on the stove whistling. It won’t tell you to eat another donut if you’re totally full.

 

The heart. Telling it like it is.

 

What would your life look like if you trusted your heart? If you allowed self-compassion into your ambitions?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Charcoal and Rhythm

by Julie Claire on October 29, 2015

I began my art making life as a singer songwriter.
Now I’m a painter.
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Singing. Painting. Experiencing wonder and creative flow.  Engaging with a force larger than myself.  Not in control. One word or brush stroke and then the next.

As October comes to a completion, (and I’m one year older) I’d like to share something I wrote recently and then recorded. I call it Charcoal and Rhythm. ( 1 minute recording)

Enjoy!  And may your creativity shine,
Julie

 

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Big Magic

October 13, 2015

I admit rarely do I read nonfiction. I am an avid fantasy and young reader junkie. But I do like to stay in tune with current writers on the creative process and books with a transformational perspective. Two years ago  I had the pleasure of hearing Elizabeth Gilbert speak some of the stories she shares […]

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The Magic Of An Intuitive Painting Workshop

July 6, 2015

Regular art classes never worked for me. I don’t bloom in instructional settings.   It was when I first experienced painting in a sacred context, in a place of personal intimacy and depth that I opened up and found my inner painter alive and well.   Actually, I was completely shocked by how much energy […]

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Ground Isn’t Sexy

June 1, 2015

For much of my life, I didn’t have a primary relationship to the ground.  I was much more interested in new ideas, being inspired, and feeling free.  I habitually focused on the next new project and moving forward. Ground isn’t sexy. Focusing on being grounded used to feel too heavy, too fixed, static and serious. But […]

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How One Brush Stroke of Freedom Can Make a Painting You Love

April 20, 2015

close-up of center   close-up of center     I will never forget this one painting experience: early on, perhaps my 4th or 5th painting ever, painting with a small women’s group in my studio; I reached a point in my painting where I felt ALMOST done. But there was something still to do. I […]

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Masking tape can be outrageous when you’re painting.

March 31, 2015

There are these creative openings that happen for you while you paint intuitively. You can’t plan them or predict them but they happen.       Sometimes it’s because you change paint colors, or you find your playful self momentarily, sometimes it’s because of a new tool—like a different size paintbrush or sponge.   Recently […]

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The Art of Asking Questions

March 10, 2015

I grew up being the one who was always asking questions. I live in questions. I love questions. One of my favorite parts of being a professional coach is asking questions.  It’s really in my job description and I find there is an art to it—finding the questions that are useful, timely and opening. I know […]

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Getting Physical with Paint

February 20, 2015

Tired of thinking? Need a break from working on “yourself”? Feel like “moving your energy”?   Picking up a paintbrush with the intention of moving and being physical can be a wonderful way to enter into your creative process and leave thinking behind altogether.   One of the gifts of intuitive painting is that there […]

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Find your energy.  Follow the flow.

February 2, 2015

photo credit David Coleman As January 1st came and went I noticed that I had a lot of “shoulds” in the air around my business plans for 2015 and not a lot of genuine energy there.  Way too responsible.  Way too reasonable.   At the same time I discovered that when I spoke about my […]

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